Honor Your Discontent

Jennifer Sneeden
2 min readDec 23, 2023


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When clients call me, it’s because something is wrong with their lives. Usually, it’s a problem that’s they’ve been dealing with for a while, but it’s finally reached a breaking point. They are discontented, unhappy, and desperate for improvement.

One of the first things I help them with is to “honor your discontent.” Because that discontent, no matter how painful it is, is the first step toward a fuller, richer, joyful life. Without it, people would settle for mediocre lives and try to convince themselves they are happy. Pain and discontent stops you from deceiving yourself. It forces you to take an honest look at your life and summon up the courage to change.

That moment of “I can’t do this anymore” is the first step toward creating a better life.

Discontent doesn’t signal that anything is wrong with you. Just the opposite: It’s a sign that something better awaits. The purpose of discontent is to wake you up to your heart’s calling. If you were living the life you were meant to live, you wouldn’t be discontent; you’d be satisfied with it.

The reason you’re dissatified is that part of you knows you are meant for more, and that part of you refuses to settle for less. When you honor your discontent, you acknowledge that you aren’t thriving in all areas of your life, you accept that there is more for you, and you prepare yourself to make the changes necessary to grow into that fuller, richer version of yourself so you can live the life you were meant to live.